{"id":13625,"date":"2023-08-24T20:08:41","date_gmt":"2023-08-24T20:08:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mytutor.co.uk\/blog\/?p=13625"},"modified":"2023-08-24T20:08:42","modified_gmt":"2023-08-24T20:08:42","slug":"how-to-encourage-resilience","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mytutor.co.uk\/blog\/parents\/how-to-encourage-resilience\/","title":{"rendered":"How to encourage resilience in your teen \u2013 6 ways"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Resilience is a key skill for teens as it helps them cope better with difficult events and situations that happen in life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unexpected changes, periods of transition, or dealing with challenges like not getting into their first university choice or facing exam resits \u2013 life can be tough and building up their sense of resilience can help them through. Here’s how to encourage resilience in your teen…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why is resilience so important for young people?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A big review<\/a> by researchers in The Netherlands found that higher levels of resilience in children and teens are related to fewer mental health problems like anxiety and depression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having resilience also gives them a stronger ability to recover and learn from the challenges they\u2019ll face, rather than getting pulled down by them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning resilience skills during their teenage years can make a big difference in their life. The good news is that there are ways to improve and strengthen their resilience and here are six ways to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Encourage them to develop a strong social network <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u201cResilience comes from relationships; children need nurturing,\u201d says Dr Rangan Chatterjee<\/a>, a medical doctor and author of The Stress Solution<\/em><\/a>. \u201cIt\u2019s not a magical \u2018inner strength\u2019 that helps kids through tough times; instead, it\u2019s the reliable and supportive relationships they build.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having a strong support network of friends and loved ones who love them for who they are is one of the most effective ways for them to build resilience. Feeling part of a supportive community can also do wonders for their self-esteem and general happiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You could also help them find a mentor or role model \u2013 whether that\u2019s a family friend, a teacher or a tutor<\/a>. Having someone to look up to and talk honestly with can really help to boost their confidence levels, especially if they\u2019re struggling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Remind them that they always have a choice<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Whatever they go through, they have a choice about how to react to it. Whether it\u2019s being rejected for their first job or not quite making the grades, try to teach them that they don\u2019t have to let the situation defeat them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, they have a choice about how to deal with it and recover from it. It\u2019s a great way to show them that they have power in any situation and it\u2019s exactly how to encourage resilience in your teen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Inspire them to re-angle failure as a learning opportunity<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Our society can sometimes portray failure as a weakness. Help your teen flip this by teaching them that failure not only means they\u2019ve had the confidence to give something a try. But, it also allows them to take stock, learn and come back stronger. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try teaching them resilient thinking and the ability to see failing as a way of learning. Encourage them to add \u2018yet\u2019 to the end of their sentences \u2013 \u2019I haven\u2019t achieved the grades I want, yet\u2019 or \u2018I can\u2019t do it, yet\u2019. This turns the \u2018failure\u2019 into an opportunity to grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Remind them of their strengths <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Teens tend to remember the negative moments more than the positive ones. So, try to help them acknowledge and revel in their successes, no matter how big or small. One way of doing this could be helping them make a list of all the things they\u2019re good at and all they\u2019ve achieved so far. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read our blog on helping your teen believe in themselves<\/a> for more advice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Help them (and you) practice a little gratitude<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Practicing gratitude also goes hand in hand with building resilience. A recent long-term study<\/a> found that gratitude helped people foster positivity and resilience during the onset of the pandemic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr Chatterjee suggests practicing a little gratitude each day. \u201cInstead of pestering your children with questions like, \u2018How was school?\u2019 and, \u2018What did you do today?\u2019, teach them to reframe their day. Try asking the whole family:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. What did someone do today to make you happy?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. What did you do to make someone else happy?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. What have you learned today?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cI love this simple exercise for how it helps us all find the positive in every day. It teaches gratitude, nurtures optimism, and recognises kindness.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    6. Help them take a step back<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    While an issue or a situation may feel very intense in the moment, it\u2019s really helpful to remind your teen to take a step back sometimes. Ask them how they might feel about the thing that\u2019s upsetting them in a week, a month or a year. Thinking this way will help them get some perspective about how much they should let it bother them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The ancient proverb, \u2018This too shall pass\u2019 is also a helpful one to remember as it will help your teen to realise that nothing \u2013 good or bad \u2013 lasts forever; all circumstances are temporary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Would your teen benefit from a mentor and role model? Our tutors can help build their confidence as well as help with learning gaps and exam revision. Find the right one for them <\/strong>here<\/strong><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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