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Even the most stoic and brave among us are bound to feel homesick at uni from time to time, be it missing your mum\u2019s tuna pasta bake, your dad\u2019s embarrassing jokes, or even just the luxury of not having to cook and clean for yourself. Moving out of home and going to university for the first time is a challenging experience for anyone, no matter if you\u2019re a real home-bird or even if you\u2019re used to being away from your family for long stretches of time. There\u2019s something very final about moving out that won\u2019t necessarily hit you or feel real until you\u2019re a few weeks or months into university, when it\u2019s finally clear that there\u2019s no going back \u2013 you\u2019re on your own.<\/p>\n

I never expected to feel that homesick before going to uni. It\u2019s not that I\u2019m not close to my family \u2013 I am, very much so, but I just thought I\u2019d be having way too much fun for homesickness to ever cross my mind.<\/p>\n

Why does homesickness happen?<\/h2>\n

I think a lot of where homesickness comes from is often from the reality of university not matching up to the myths we\u2019ve been sold \u2013 that you\u2019ll instantly be best friends with everyone in your halls, you\u2019ll go out partying every night, you won\u2019t have anything to worry about because you\u2019ll be too busy having new experiences. Whilst some of this might be true, it isn\u2019t always the case for most people. Like everything in life, university has its ups and downs, and it can be hard to deal with when you don\u2019t have your family right there to vent to. You may not realise it, but when you\u2019re at home you have a whole support network there for you when you need it, and it\u2019s often all too easy to take it for granted until it\u2019s gone. But part of the university experience is learning how to be independent, and with that comes learning how to deal with feeling homesick.<\/p>\n

How can I deal with homesickness?<\/h2>\n

I don\u2019t want to sound too clich\u00e9 here, but much like grief, the first stage of dealing with homesickness at university is acceptance. You\u2019ve got to be able to accept when things maybe aren\u2019t all going great, and it\u2019s okay to admit to yourself that maybe you\u2019re not having the best time. Just remember that it\u2019s completely natural to feel this way, and you\u2019re by no means on your own \u2013 everyone will have a mini-crisis at some point during the year, even those who seem the most confident and self-assured. The second you allow yourself to have a little cry and let your feelings out, the better you\u2019ll feel in the long run. There\u2019s nothing worse than keeping things bottled up and pretending everything\u2019s fine, when all you really want is a hug and a nice long chat with your mum.<\/p>\n

The next, and definitely the most important stage of dealing with homesickness at university is to talk to someone. Whether it\u2019s your parents, siblings, friends from home or even your new flatmates, I can bet you there\u2019ll be someone willing to listen, and most importantly, someone who understands how you feel. Although it can feel a little awkward or embarrassing at first being so open and vulnerable, I can assure you that telling someone else how you feel will lift such a weight off your shoulders, especially if the other person knows how you\u2019re feeling and can offer some advice. It\u2019s all well and good being open with yourself, but letting others into your life and showing them how you feel can be key to maintaining those all-important support networks, and could even help you bond with some new friends.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019d rather not talk to someone you know, there are always other options \u2013 most universities have a Nightline service, which you can call anonymously to let something off your chest and get some support or advice from one of their trained volunteers. Samaritans also operates a similar service, and if you feel like you need some more support, you can always go and see your University counselling service. The most important thing is to at least talk to someone about how you\u2019re feeling \u2013 I promise, it\u2019ll make you feel so much better.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not all doom and gloom though \u2013 university can be anything from amazing to alright to awful. Homesickness is an inevitable part of it, and the good news is it doesn\u2019t last forever. Once you settle into a routine and make a good group of friends, you\u2019ll be sorted. Just make sure you check in with your family from time to time.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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